Our Daily Schedule with Three Under Three

I have a 6-week-old, a 23-month-old and a 2.5-year-old.  I’ll be honest: I’m exhausted, so much so that I had a hard time recalling what my day yesterday even looked like (I’ve been trying to reflect back on my days in order to write this post).  Every day DEFINITELY has new challenges, but what I’ve found to be nice about three under three is that life is more orderly than it was with my first two.  We have our routines in place, and the new baby is fitting in to what we already do rather than dictating a new way of life.  So here’s a loose schedule for our days:

12:30am: Nurse baby

4am: Nurse baby

7am: 3 kids get up (I wake the baby up if she’s still sleeping so she’ll move towards being on the same schedule as her siblings); milk for toddlers and nursing for baby. 1 hour of TV (during which time I have my daily prayer time).

8/8:30a: Breakfast—when I do daily prayer time with the kids—followed by cleaning up the kitchen.  Big kids play independently during this time, and the baby either sits in her bouncy chair or I carry her in my Tula.

9a-12p: “Big” kids have preschool 2 days a week.

> On preschool days I used this time to snuggle with the baby, to rest, to read and to write.

> On non-preschool days the cleaning of the kitchen extends to other rooms of the house.  Laundry is put on to wash and clutter is organized.  Then the big kids and I have our “special time” together, when I paint, draw, read, play, etc with them.  If it weren’t so stinkin’ cold where we live, this is the time we’d play outside.

10a: Nurse baby.

12/12:30p: Lunch time followed by another kitchen clean up.

1p-3:30p: Naptime/rest time.  The kids nap anywhere from one hour to two and a half hours (unless they’re sick I don’t let them sleep beyond 3:30p as it messes up bedtime).  When they wake up we either play quietly together or they get another 30min-1 hour of TV (honestly, it’s mainly TV right now since I’m pretty tired).

1p: (As soon as older kids are asleep) Nurse baby. After nursing I either sleep, read or write. I also have a special “afternoon pick-me-up”: a decaf Starbucks k-cup and a piece or two of chocolate. Even Mama needs a treat now and then 😉

3:30p: Teatime.  This is when the kids and I sit down together at the table for an afternoon snack—it’s usually a treat like chocolate milk, a cookie or fruit, etc.  I try to read a special book to them—more literary or “grown up” than the board books we usually read—or we do our prayer time and read from our Bible if we didn’t get to it in the morning (school days are rushed and it can be hard to fit in morning prayers).

4p: Nurse baby. The big kids play independently and I do chores and prepare dinner.

5:30p: Gather around the table for a sit-down dinner.

6p: Bath time, PJs and cuddle/read.

6:45p/7p: Brush teeth, read nightly prayer book, and go to bed.

7p: Nurse baby.  Husband and I have our quality time, usually reading together.

8p: Shower and get ready for bed.

8:30p: Wake baby for “dream feed”.

9p: Aim to be in bed with the lights out at this time.

Like I said, this is a very loose schedule.  The baby often likes to cluster feed in the evenings, so the times I listed often change.  My big kids were sick last week so have been waking up extra early in the morning.  But this does represent the general flow to our days—what we aim for—as well as how we prioritize our activities.

What do your days at home with little ones look like?

Goal Setting for Busy Moms: Moving Beyond “Survival Mode” in 2018

In my last post I talked about my plans for the New Year. I’ll be starting out 2018 as a Mama of two under two AND three under three, so in many ways just surviving seems like a sufficient resolution. But the prospect of a whole year of simply surviving felt a little depressing to me, so I decided to pause and think (and pray) about what would make this a meaningful year for me as a mama, a wife and a woman. Here’s my 4-step process for how I’m creating my purpose and tracking my progress this year:

START WITH: A Big Picture Resolution.  For me it is Col 3:14-17, which I came to during my Bible study time after praying for guidance (this is my guiding principle for the year): “Put on love…and let the peace of Christ control [my] heart. And be thankful…do[ing] everything in the name of the Lord Jesus.” (Col 3:14-17).

FROM THERE, I BRAINSTORMED: I came up with my Big Dreams for 2018 by asked myself, “With Col 3:14-17 as my guiding principle, when I’m at this point in my life next year, what will I [and most importantly God] have liked to have accomplished?). Here’s what I came up with:

  1. Daily Prayer time & spiritual growth (focusing on joy and patience)
  2. Improved spending habits and a less materialistic heart
  3. Create a Family Culture
    • Intentional faith education for my kids
    • Modeling Christ’s love for my kids (1 John 3:16)
    • More intentional, less distracted quality time with my kids
    • Improved boundaries and discipline for my kids
    • Daily home care and lifestyle routines
  4. Become a more engaged, disciplined blogger
  5. Finish my novel
  6. Develop healthy & consistent exercise routine
  7. Monthly goal setting and reflection: Set new goals at the beginning of each month with the aim of taking daily meaningful steps towards my Big Dreams. Reflect at the end of each month on how well I did in meeting my goals.

NEXT, I TURNED THE BRAINSTORM INTO MONTHLY GOALS:  I am taking this one month at a time, so have only done in-depth goal setting for January.  The reason for taking this one month at a time is because I want to reflect on my progress at the end of each month, and from there set new goals. For the month of January I asked myself: what can I reasonably expect to accomplish in order to take steps towards my Big Dreams? Here’s what I came up with:

January: Establish and stick to daily prayer & home care routines while adjusting to life with a newborn, a one-year-old and a two-year-old.

  1. Daily: “Discovery Prayer Process”/Bible Study + Rosary
  2. Daily: 1 chapter (or section) a night of a soul-strengthening book (Currently I’m reading The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson and love it!).
  3. Daily: Bedtime Dynamic Catholic prayer process
  4. Daily: 15 minutes (minimum) of blogging
  5. Daily: Wash, dry & fold 1 load of laundry
  6. Daily: Run the dishwasher at least once (if not twice)
  7. 3x a week: Breakfast Bible reading with kids
  8. 5x a week: Afternoon “tea time” + reading time with kids (Start with Bible if we didn’t do it at breakfast)
  9. 1x a week (preferably more): Take a walk (this is difficult with winter temperatures in the single digits)

I also jotted down some future goals I have so I don’t forget them:

February: Buy & read “Our 24 Family Ways: A Family Devotional Guide” by Clay Clarkson; Start BBG postpartum program; buy large white board for book outlining; maintain and expand upon daily routines; give up online shopping (i.e. don’t even set eyes on Amazon or other online stores) for Lent

March: Implement “24 Family Ways” devotional in our daily routine

June: Buy PowerSheets planner & start using

December: Jesse Tree with kids (for Advent)

FINALLY, I BROKE MONTHLY GOALS INTO DAILY TASKS: Looking at the week ahead, I asked myself what small tasks could I accomplish each day to move me towards my monthly goals.  It’s helpful to have a basic planner for this process (see below for how I wrote out my plan for today):

Monday, January 8th: Prayer time & rosary in the morning after settled in at the hospital for my induction (including soul-strengthening book reading); Publish blog post (morning); Start working on next weeks blog post; Dynamic Catholic Prayer process before going to sleep (post-birth)

I did this for each day of the week, then went back though my calendar and made sure I was meeting my monthly goals (eg. daily prayer time, number of Bible lessons for the kids I wanted to do each week, etc.)

A big change for me this year (a goal in itself) is to check in and reflect upon my progress, and to always be taking small steps towards big goals. I’m going to make my first blog post of each month this year a reflection on my progress towards my goals from the previous month, and a plan for my goals in the upcoming month.

 

Are you doing anything special to hold yourself accountable to your resolutions this year?

 

 

Creating New Years Resolutions: Tips for the Mama with Small Children at Home

I want to be a better blogger. You know, one of those bloggers who posts AT LEAST once a week—preferably multiple times a week—not just once every six months. That’s a big dream of mine for 2018.

But that’s also a hard resolution to make when I’m 36 weeks pregnant and know I am going to be induced one week from today. When I know I’ll be returning home from the hospital with my sweet newborn to a house with a one-year-old and two-year-old in it. In this season of life, I feel like the only thing I can resolve to do is change diapers everyday and feed small hungry mouths.

While these are definitely worthy, good resolutions to make, a whole year ahead with nothing else resolved feels a bit daunting. At least to me.

So the other day I put it to prayer, and God responded immediately: He provided me with a framework to approach my resolution making during this busy yet monotonous season of life, a season in which I feel like I’m constantly working and yet can’t see any tangible progress from my labor.

Here is the big purpose, the resolution, God put in my heart for 2018: “Put on love…and let the peace of Christ control [my] heart. And be thankful…do[ing] everything in the name of the Lord Jesus.” (Col 3:14-17).

I know that even the smallest task, if it is done in love and for God, acquires infinite worth. This is how we build up our treasure in Heaven—yet sometimes in the day-to-day of life this fact is easily forgotten. I believe that my biggest job in life right now (aside from being a daughter of God, which is always my highest calling) is being a Mama to the three small precious souls God has blessed me with. So holding fast to this Bible verse is my primary resolution for this year…

But there’s more.

With my overarching resolution in hand and heart, I still feel that God is calling me to more. The Holy Spirit creates motions in our hearts and God has given us our talents for a reason. So…here’s how I’m going from lofty ideas to bite size, attainable daily goals:

  1. START WITH: Big Picture Resolution (Col 3:14-17, which I came to by praying for guidance)
  2. FROM THAT, BRAINSTORM: Big Dreams for 2018 (I asked myself, “When I’m at this point in my life next year, what will I [and most importantly God] have liked to have accomplished?)
  3. BIG DREAMS THEN BROKEN INTO: Monthly Goals (For each month of the year, what can I reasonably expect to do in order to take steps towards my big dreams? I know, for example, that I’ll be less productive in January when I have a newborn than I will be once that newborn is sleeping through the night (maybe by July? Is that too ambitious a hope?) 😉 ).
  4. BUILT UPON DAILY TASKS: Weekly Planning. Looking at the week ahead, what small tasks can I accomplish each day to move me towards my goals?

In my next post, I’ll share the specifics of my resolutions and goal making, as well as how I’m holding myself accountable this year (which I haven’t really done before with my new year resolutions). I hope you too, Mama, have taken time to think about YOUR upcoming year and what YOUR purpose is…I would love to hear what your reflections and resolutions are!