May Goals

With three kids three and under, life is crazy these days. It seems like I keep making goals that I fall short of reaching, and month after month of failing to meet goals is discouraging. When I sat down to write this post, my first thought was: “Why bother with a post about goals? You never keep them.”

But I quickly stomped out that thought. Goals are important. They keep us going, striving for something better. They help to elevate us above mediocrity, and set us on a higher path. They give us purpose and when we do achieve them, they inspire us to greater things.

So here are my May goals. To write these, I returned to my 2018 Big Picture Resolution and Big Dreams and made sure my goals were in line with those.

  1. Daily (creating a daily prayer habit):
    1. 30 minutes of mental prayer each morning.
    2. 1 rosary each day.
    3. Daily mass.
    4. Read 1 psalm and 1 chapter from the New Testament daily.
    5. Read 1 section from a soul-strengthening book daily.
    6. Wash, dry, fold and put away 1 load of laundry daily.
    7. Remember to reflect on the GOOD things I’ve done throughout the day, not just the ways I’ve fallen short.
  2. Weekly:
    1. Weekly confession.
  3. This month:
    1. Plan out homeschooling schedule for the summer (I am discerning homeschooling for our family and am going to try out basic lessons and a daily routine this summer).
    2. Organize family clothes (put away winter clothes, bring out summer clothes, and put away things that are too small, too stained, etc).

I feel like this year is taking a different direction than I envisioned, which is beautiful thing because I can see God’s hand at work in my life.  I can see Him guiding me down a path that I had never really planned for myself. (This in itself is an answered prayer as I daily pray Psalm 25:4, “Make known to me your ways, Lord; teach me your paths). God is doing just that for me and there have been a lot of exciting (very surprising) developments in 2018, mainly in amazing opportunities for me to evangelize: being invited to co-lead a Bible study next year, organizing a faith-based book group for the summer, being asked to be a Table Leader for our local MOPS chapter next year, and being able to start up a playgroup for mothers of young children from my church.

These opportunities have all been surprises to me, which just goes to show that you can set your own goals but God might have different goals in mind for you!  Keep your eyes and ears open to God’s goals for your life, because, as I’ve been discovering lately, they are the best ones. 🙂

February Goals

So, I’ve been trying to stick to my new years resolutions but clearly the blogging every Monday has been a bit of a fail. My kids have been sick a lot (how is it that we got the stomach flu twice in the one month since bringing baby girl home from the hospital?!), and baby girl ended up having to be readmitted to the hospital for a time, so I’ve frankly been too exhausted to do much other than care for my family and sleep.  But here’s a break down of how I’ve done so far:

January: Establish and stick to daily prayer & home care routines while adjusting to life with a newborn, a one-year-old and a two-year-old. We’ve definitely been adjusting to our new life, however routines have not been as consistent as I’d like.

  1. Daily: “Discovery Prayer Process”/Bible Study + Rosary 30% achieved
  2. Daily: 1 chapter (or section) a night of a soul-strengthening book (Currently I’m reading The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson and love it!). 100% achieved
  3. Daily: Bedtime Dynamic Catholic prayer process 5% achieved
  4. Daily: 15 minutes (minimum) of blogging 40% achieved
  5. Daily: Wash, dry & fold 1 load of laundry 60% achieved
  6. Daily: Run the dishwasher at least once (if not twice) 100% achieved
  7. 3x a week: Breakfast Bible reading with kids 5% achieved
  8. 5x a week: Afternoon “tea time” + reading time with kids (Start with Bible if we didn’t do it at breakfast) 85% achieved
  9. 1x a week (preferably more): Take a walk (this is difficult with winter temperatures in the single digits) 75% achieved

Looking at the above and some notes I had jotted down before, I came up with my February goals:

  1. Daily: Bible study (read and reflect upon AT LEAST one chapter)
  2. Daily: 1 chapter (or section) a night of a soul-strengthening book (I’d like to read “Our 24 Family Ways: A Family Devotional Guide” by Clay Clarkson)
  3. Daily: 5 minutes (minimum) of blogging
  4. Daily: Wash, dry & fold 1 load of laundry
  5. 3x a week (M, W, F): Breakfast Bible reading with kids
  6. 5x a week: Afternoon “tea time” + reading time with kids (Start with Bible if we didn’t do it at breakfast)
  7. 1x a week (preferably more): Take a walk with the kids (this is difficult with winter temperatures).  I want to spend more time outside with our kiddos as we’ve been stuck in the house A LOT this winter.
  8. Give Facebook & online shopping for Lent

I do think I am making good progress towards my Big Picture Resolution (“Put on love…and let the peace of Christ control [my] heart. And be thankful…do[ing] everything in the name of the Lord Jesus.” (Col 3:14-17)), even if it’s not quite in the ways I had planned for the month.  Serving a sick family with a patient and generous heart (when you’re chronically sleep deprived yourself!) definitely fits the bill!  That said I do hope to meet my specific goals for the rest of February, and to hit the ground running (and keep running!) in March.

How have your 2018 resolutions been going?

Goal Setting for Busy Moms: Moving Beyond “Survival Mode” in 2018

In my last post I talked about my plans for the New Year. I’ll be starting out 2018 as a Mama of two under two AND three under three, so in many ways just surviving seems like a sufficient resolution. But the prospect of a whole year of simply surviving felt a little depressing to me, so I decided to pause and think (and pray) about what would make this a meaningful year for me as a mama, a wife and a woman. Here’s my 4-step process for how I’m creating my purpose and tracking my progress this year:

START WITH: A Big Picture Resolution.  For me it is Col 3:14-17, which I came to during my Bible study time after praying for guidance (this is my guiding principle for the year): “Put on love…and let the peace of Christ control [my] heart. And be thankful…do[ing] everything in the name of the Lord Jesus.” (Col 3:14-17).

FROM THERE, I BRAINSTORMED: I came up with my Big Dreams for 2018 by asked myself, “With Col 3:14-17 as my guiding principle, when I’m at this point in my life next year, what will I [and most importantly God] have liked to have accomplished?). Here’s what I came up with:

  1. Daily Prayer time & spiritual growth (focusing on joy and patience)
  2. Improved spending habits and a less materialistic heart
  3. Create a Family Culture
    • Intentional faith education for my kids
    • Modeling Christ’s love for my kids (1 John 3:16)
    • More intentional, less distracted quality time with my kids
    • Improved boundaries and discipline for my kids
    • Daily home care and lifestyle routines
  4. Become a more engaged, disciplined blogger
  5. Finish my novel
  6. Develop healthy & consistent exercise routine
  7. Monthly goal setting and reflection: Set new goals at the beginning of each month with the aim of taking daily meaningful steps towards my Big Dreams. Reflect at the end of each month on how well I did in meeting my goals.

NEXT, I TURNED THE BRAINSTORM INTO MONTHLY GOALS:  I am taking this one month at a time, so have only done in-depth goal setting for January.  The reason for taking this one month at a time is because I want to reflect on my progress at the end of each month, and from there set new goals. For the month of January I asked myself: what can I reasonably expect to accomplish in order to take steps towards my Big Dreams? Here’s what I came up with:

January: Establish and stick to daily prayer & home care routines while adjusting to life with a newborn, a one-year-old and a two-year-old.

  1. Daily: “Discovery Prayer Process”/Bible Study + Rosary
  2. Daily: 1 chapter (or section) a night of a soul-strengthening book (Currently I’m reading The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson and love it!).
  3. Daily: Bedtime Dynamic Catholic prayer process
  4. Daily: 15 minutes (minimum) of blogging
  5. Daily: Wash, dry & fold 1 load of laundry
  6. Daily: Run the dishwasher at least once (if not twice)
  7. 3x a week: Breakfast Bible reading with kids
  8. 5x a week: Afternoon “tea time” + reading time with kids (Start with Bible if we didn’t do it at breakfast)
  9. 1x a week (preferably more): Take a walk (this is difficult with winter temperatures in the single digits)

I also jotted down some future goals I have so I don’t forget them:

February: Buy & read “Our 24 Family Ways: A Family Devotional Guide” by Clay Clarkson; Start BBG postpartum program; buy large white board for book outlining; maintain and expand upon daily routines; give up online shopping (i.e. don’t even set eyes on Amazon or other online stores) for Lent

March: Implement “24 Family Ways” devotional in our daily routine

June: Buy PowerSheets planner & start using

December: Jesse Tree with kids (for Advent)

FINALLY, I BROKE MONTHLY GOALS INTO DAILY TASKS: Looking at the week ahead, I asked myself what small tasks could I accomplish each day to move me towards my monthly goals.  It’s helpful to have a basic planner for this process (see below for how I wrote out my plan for today):

Monday, January 8th: Prayer time & rosary in the morning after settled in at the hospital for my induction (including soul-strengthening book reading); Publish blog post (morning); Start working on next weeks blog post; Dynamic Catholic Prayer process before going to sleep (post-birth)

I did this for each day of the week, then went back though my calendar and made sure I was meeting my monthly goals (eg. daily prayer time, number of Bible lessons for the kids I wanted to do each week, etc.)

A big change for me this year (a goal in itself) is to check in and reflect upon my progress, and to always be taking small steps towards big goals. I’m going to make my first blog post of each month this year a reflection on my progress towards my goals from the previous month, and a plan for my goals in the upcoming month.

 

Are you doing anything special to hold yourself accountable to your resolutions this year?