DS turned two on Sunday, so we’re officially out of the 2 under 2 AND 3 under 3 camp (and now we’re just in the 3 under 3 camp)! We have two 2-year-olds and a 7-week-old, so I thought this would be a good time to write this post since we’re in the thick of it and honestly, life feels HARD right now. Every day is a new challenge with three under three, but here are the top three things that I find to be difficult:
- Pure Exhaustion. This one is really, really hard, especially during those first six weeks at home with a newborn. You’re recovering from a physically challenging 9 months, which ended in labor and delivery. Your newborn, of course, is waking up multiple times a night. You expected that. But what you didn’t expect is TODDLER SLEEP REGRESSION. A new baby is a big transition for older siblings, and both of my “big kids”—who were awesome 7p-7a sleepers—started waking up in the middle of the night AND super early in the morning. Then they both got sick and literal poop hit the fan. Everyone in our house was beat tired for several weeks. On top of the lack of sleep is the fact that you’re spending your days chasing after toddlers, instead of resting quietly on the couch with your new baby. My advice? Invest in a Keurig.
- Constant needs (and neediness) of children. This one will drain you dry if you don’t make sure to take care of yourself. Again, when they’re sick the neediness is almost more than you can take (and some days it is and you have to turn the TV on and pile everyone on top of you on the couch so that you’re simultaneously able to hold three crying children at once). We have three kids in diapers still, so that’s one area of neediness. Then there are three small mouths to feed, three sleepy kiddos to put to bed, three stinky kiddos to bathe, three times the laundry to wash & fold & put away…the list goes on. On top of all that is the fact that you’ve got two kids around the age of two, so tantrums and meltdowns are no joke. So. Much. Crying. I often feel like I’m playing that Whack-a-Mole game, the one where you knock one mole (child’s need) back under ground, only to have a new mole (child’s need) pop up somewhere else.
- Leaving the house. Three kids—who hate their car seats—to buckle into car seats. An infant to carry around, and two walking toddlers to corral. Three times the stuff to carry in the diaper bag (I actually have two diapers bags that I bring with me now—a big one for the car and a small one that comes everywhere with me). Leaving the house is both mentally challenging and physically challenging. Three small people + all of their things to move from point A to point B makes it physically challenging. It’s mentally challenging because you only have one hand free to grab hold of a toddler, but you have two toddlers who may suddenly make a break for it. For now I’ve found the best ways to deal with these challenges is either to keep the baby in a front carrier (ideal because then you have one hand free per toddler) and/or to teach your toddlers to hold hands. Also, invest in a stroller that can carry three children, such as the Uppababy Vista, the CitySelect or the Joovy Qool. Joovy also makes The Big Caboose, but I’ve heard it’s not as easy to maneuver (which you want to be able to do easily with three under three).
Moms who have had three under three, did I miss anything? For those of you who might be preparing for three under three, what questions do you have? In case this post seemed less than cheerful, I should note that my next post will be about the three BEST things about having 3 under 3. 🙂